There are some clubs everyone wants to join – the mile-high club springs to mind. However, the 1-minute club is a different matter, and men who ejaculate too early during sex can testify to the measures they will take to avoid being a permanent member of this club. Currently, doctors cannot cure PE, but they can help. There are excellent medical solutions for PE, but it’s probably easier to first test natural remedies as ways to fix premature ejaculation.Here’s a roundup of the most successful tips and techniques, which includes training techniques and other options.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
Although the definition of Premature Ejaculation (PE) differs between various cultures and countries doctors agree that when ejaculation occurs before, or within 2 minutes after initiating penetrative sex, you suffer from premature ejaculation. Most men last between 5 to 10 minutes if they do not use any techniques to prolong the sexual encounter. However, occasional premature ejaculation is very common, and some men suffer from this condition their entire lives.
Types of Premature Ejaculation
Almost every man may experience occasional PE in some situations such as long intervals between sex or the first time with a new partner, but clinical PE is classified into two categories: lifelong (primary) and acquired (secondary). Both conditions can be caused by a combination of physical factors, and psychological elements such as religious or cultural expectations, anxiety, depression, stress or relationship problems. Acquired PE usually occurs later in life when men who have had earlier sexual encounters without problems suddenly experience premature ejaculation. In some cases it is triggered by stress, depression or relationship issues, but it can also be caused by purely physical causes such as high blood pressure, diabetes or drugs for various conditions. Lifelong PE appears early; usually during a first sexual contact as teenager and can be harder to manage than acquired PE. Some men are just naturally more sensitive than others, and may require a combination of remedies and medical intervention to manage the condition. Most men will, at some stage in their lives, look for ways to delay ejaculation and prolong the sex act. Fortunately, there are many ways to do so without reaching for medication and you may want to try a few other ideas first.
Home Remedies to Prevent PE
While medical treatment is a good option to fix PE, let’s first look at some home remedies and training techniques that work well for some men. These are great natural ways to prevent you from going “all the way” too fast.
Practice makes Perfect
While solo sex is a great comfort, rushed masturbation techniques can potentially set a pattern of chasing orgasms as fast as possible. It can be a habit which is hard to break when you have sex with a partner. Luckily, you can use your solo time to learn how to avoid fast ejaculation and exert perfect control over your PC muscle. The good news is that, for some men, it is only a matter of training.
Concentrate on identifying your point of no return. Take yourself to edge, but don’t finish. Stop, try to relax completely, and flex your PC muscle. This should stop early ejaculating. When the urge has passed, continue stimulation and repeat this process a few times. Once you know you can avoid ejaculation at least some of the time, you have a good chance of delaying orgasm when you are with a partner.
Take a Deep Breath
True story. Deep breathing oxygenates the blood, causing the brain to release endorphins. Endorphins are responsible for a feeling of well-being and will reduce stress. Inhale through the nose and hold it for a few seconds, then slowly exhale through the mouth. Practice this when you feel you are close to reaching the edge.
What Exercises May Help?
Kegel exercises are not just for women. The pelvic floor muscles support the bladder and bowels, and can have a dramatic effect on your ability to delay your ejaculation. If you can learn to engage the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle just before ejaculation, the action causes a little “short circuit” to delay premature ejaculation. Kegel exercises will make your PC muscle more responsive and stronger. Regular Kegel exercises can enhance sexual pleasure and performance by improving ejaculatory force and control. As a bonus, it will also contribute to urinary health by improving stress urinary incontinence and post-void dribbling.
Work Those Muscles
Once you have strengthened your pelvic floor muscles, you can consider your pelvic muscles as your own private ‘handy little helper’. The PC muscle stretches from the tailbone at the base of the spine down to the pubic bone by way of the floor of the pelvic cavity. You can develop this muscle much like you can improve any other muscle in your body by contracting or squeezing the muscle regularly. The key is to identify it correctly. If you stand in front of a mirror you can see your PC muscles moving or jerking directly under your testicles when you start urinating or if you flex your penis while your penis is erect. Start by regulating your urine flow. While urinating, try to stop the flow in midstream. Hold, then relax to allow the urine to flow. Repeat this exercise several times every time you urinate, aiming to do the exercise up to 50 times a day. You should see an improvement within a week. You can alternate this ‘squeeze and hold’ with quick contractions – a fun way to ‘flex your muscles’!
Take Your Time and Don’t Hurry Up
One way of taking the glare of the spotlight off your performance is by heightening the pleasure of your partner. If your partner is highly aroused before you attempt penetration, it becomes much easier to satisfy their needs. Longer foreplay will help your partner orgasm faster, and you can also make them climax first by ways other than penetrative sex. The focus should be on inventive ways to stimulate your partner, and more adventurous foreplay will almost always increase your partner’s satisfaction. If your partner has achieved orgasm even before you attempt penetration, there won’t be many complaints!
What Is The “Start-Stop” Technique?
This technique is also known as the “pause-start” method, and most men use it instinctively at some time or another. When you feel ejaculation approaching, stop thrusting or stimulating the penis for 30 seconds or longer until the urge to ejaculate diminishes, and then restart. The trick lies in accurately identifying the ‘point of no return’ and reducing or eliminating friction in time. Strong PC muscles are very helpful here: when you stop thrusting, engage the pelvic muscles to reduce the sensations and to help you regain complete control. If your partner finds stopping and starting frustrating, you can always find creative ways to make the short wait worth their while by concentrating on their pleasure during an interval. You could also change sexual position, which will help you to regain control for a while.
What Is The “Squeeze” Technique?
The squeeze technique, also known as the “clamp technique”, has been jokingly referred to ‘clamping a hose’ and the method is somewhat similar. When you feel yourself approaching ejaculation, you have to withdraw and grasp your penis at a point half an inch below the glans. Squeeze firmly for about 30 seconds or until the urge to ejaculate passes.
This will effectively stop ejaculation and you can continue normal intercourse, repeating the process until you are ready to ejaculate. A few men find that it also affects their erection, which can normally be regained fast. For some men, this maneuver is uncomfortable or even painful – and you do need a cooperative partner.
The Best Tips to Control Premature Ejaculation
Thinking distracting thoughts when you are ‘at the edge’ may well help to stop ejaculation, but don’t risk killing your erection completely by suddenly remembering an important work project! Here are some more tips to help you control PE.
When your diet is lacking in nutrients, your sex life will suffer. While there is no miracle food to help you overcome premature ejaculation, you cannot go wrong with a well-rounded and balanced diet. Some nutrients may be more helpful than others, and you may find this list of essential nutrients helpful.
|Name of nutrient||Zinc||Vitamin D||Vitamin K||Vitamin B-group|
|Function||Boost immune system and help the production of testosterone||Help regulate testosterone levels||Help the regulation of blood flow in the body||Improve nerve function|
|Source||Seafood, meat, nuts and oatmeal||Egg yolks or oily fish like mackerel and salmon||Green, leafy vegetables||Animal products such as fish, meat and poultry, eggs and dairy|
Medical studies have shown that folic acid can be particularly helpful for premature ejaculation. Folic acid is the synthetic form of B9 and is found in fortified foods like cereals and many food supplements.
Use the Most Successful Sex Positions
Deep and fast thrusting like the ‘missionary position’ and ‘doggy style’ can make it impossible to control ejaculation. Happily, this gives you the opportunity to explore other sex positions that allow you to vary the pace, depth and angle of penetration to help you slow down.
The woman-on-top position relaxes the pelvic floor muscles, and a slow grinding, not a thrusting action by your partner can help you to delay ejaculation for a longer time.
If you enjoy the man-on-top position, you can try to slow down to limit the depth and the speed of thrusting, using this opportunity to stimulate your partner with your hands.
The spooning position allows for powerful but slow movement, but puts less pressure on the head of the penis, as does sitting on the bed with your partner on top. While sitting in a chair or the side of the bed can sometimes provide a slow, smooth experience, this may depend on your partner!
Changing positions a few times can earn you valuable time and can bring you back from the brink just when you need it, as long as your partner does not find it disruptive.
Condoms tend to decrease sensitivity for many men, which can delay ejaculation. The thicker the latex, the better suited to this purpose, but there are also specialized condom brands available which are designed especially to help men last longer. These condoms contain numbing agents and are made from a thicker latex. Even men with no PE problems use them to help them prolong sex. If you do not need or want to use a condom, you can also use one of several approved numbing agents available with or without a prescription. You can apply topical anesthetic agents to the penis before intercourse to help dull sensations during sex, and they are often very effective.
Try to Take Herbal Supplements
You can’t go wrong with a good multivitamin specially formulated for men. A multivitamin supplement will complement exercise and a healthy diet and may increase sexual performance. Although scientific studies that prove the effectiveness of herbal products are lacking, some men do find certain herbal products helpful. Supplements formulated to preserve the allicin found in garlic and onions can boost sex drive in men as allicin is claimed to promote blood flow to the penis.
Some of these products contain androgens like testosterone, DH-EA and androstenedione, which can boost the sex drive, but may be harmful for some men. Always check with your health practitioner, especially if you take medication for diabetes or high blood pressure.